Deeper Connections, Backed by Science
Relately uses personality science to help you understand yourself and your partner — so you can build the relationship you actually want.
Features
What Makes Relately Different
We go beyond surface-level swiping. Relately maps who you truly are — and shows you how to connect on a deeper level.
Enneagram Compatibility
Discover how your core motivations, fears, and growth paths interact with your partner's — and learn where you naturally harmonize or challenge each other.
Attachment Style Insights
Understand your attachment dynamics — anxious, avoidant, secure, or fearful-avoidant — and get actionable tips to build a safer bond.
DISC Communication Style
See how your communication and decision-making styles align, so you can reduce friction and be heard the way you intend.
Values Alignment
Measure alignment across ten core value dimensions — from self-direction to benevolence — to see what truly matters to both of you.
Instinctual Variants
Explore the interplay of Sexual, Self-Preservation, and Social instincts and how they shape your needs in a relationship.
Relationship Dashboard
Get a living, evolving view of your relationship strengths, growth areas, and personalized action steps — all in one place.
How It Works
Three Steps to Understanding
Take the Assessments
Answer thoughtful, research-backed questions covering your Enneagram type, attachment style, communication preferences, core values, and instinctual drives. It takes about 15 minutes.
Get Your Profile
Receive a rich personality profile that goes far beyond a single label — with nuanced breakdowns of how you show up in relationships.
Discover Your Compatibility
Connect with your partner and unlock a detailed compatibility report with match scores, conflict predictions, growth tips, and concrete suggestions to strengthen your bond.
The Science
Rooted in Real Research
Relately's compatibility engine is built on well-established personality frameworks — not vibes.
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Enneagram
A nine-type personality system mapping core motivations, fears, and growth paths. Relately uses wing, tritype, and instinct data for precise compatibility scoring.
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Attachment Theory
Rooted in decades of developmental psychology research, attachment styles predict how people seek closeness, handle conflict, and regulate emotions in relationships.
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DISC Model
A behavioral assessment framework widely used in organizational psychology. We apply it to romantic contexts to illuminate communication and decision-making dynamics.
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Schwartz Values Theory
A cross-cultural model identifying ten universal value types. Values alignment is one of the strongest predictors of long-term relationship satisfaction.
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
Is Relately a dating app?+
No. Relately is a relationship insight tool. It helps couples and individuals understand their personality dynamics — it doesn't facilitate swiping or matching with strangers.
How long do the assessments take?+
The full assessment suite takes about 15 minutes. You can complete sections at your own pace — your progress is saved automatically.
Is my data private?+
Absolutely. Your personality data is encrypted and never shared with third parties. You control who sees your profile and compatibility reports.
Do both partners need the app?+
You can get valuable insights from your own profile alone. But to unlock full compatibility reports, both partners complete their assessments and connect within the app.
What platforms is Relately available on?+
Relately is currently available on iOS, with Android support coming soon.
Ready to Relate Better?
Download Relately and start understanding yourself, your partner, and the space between you.
Download for iOS